Wants

"Nibby" (nibby68) 10/20/2020 at 09:00 • Filed to: None

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Want to live on my own
Want my own house
Want to get a new job in UX
Want to invest in more meaningful relationships
Want to spend time with those who care
Want to help more
Want to give more
Want to love more
Want to nurture more
Want to support more
Want more money
Want a project truck
Want to get in better shape
Want to find more activities and hobbies
Want to learn more
Want to do something that matters
Want to be myself again

Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:07

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That is a good list of wants. Now if you balance that against a list of needs and see how many you can reasonably accomplish (probably all of them) then you're in good shape fixing to be in better shape. Things going ok?

E90M3 > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:10

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I just want it to be Friday. 

Ssfancyfresh > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:12

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Good list

How many times did you reshuffle the order of the items on this list before posting?

This is the internal monologue that gives me anxiety and keeps me up at night: here’s what I want, and HERE’s what I need people to THINK I want. 

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:20

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Do you regularly volunteer anywhere? If you don’t, I feel like a regular, weekly commitment of a couple hours to an organization whose mission you believe in could help you with a good number of these.

Want to invest in more meaningful relationships
Want to spend time with those who care
Want to help more
Want to give more
Want to love more
Want to nurture more
Want to support more
Want to get in better shape (possibly - depending on the work )
Want to find more activities and hobbies
Want to learn more
Want to do something that matters

Nibby > Ssfancyfresh 10/20/2020 at 09:22

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not much shuffling honestly... i think if you think about it a lot, you kinda know the order/priorities

Nibby > Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available 10/20/2020 at 09:22

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yeah i’m doing better just wanted to write it down cause it helps. thanks!

Nibby > E90M3 10/20/2020 at 09:23

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i just want more E92s

Smallbear wants a modern Syclone, local Maple Leafs spammer > E90M3 10/20/2020 at 09:23

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it’s the little things

Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:25

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Absolutely. Not only that but I’m sure many of us find it encouraging to read.

MonkeePuzzle > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:26

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RacinBob > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:27

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Want to be 40 again......

Nibby > Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available 10/20/2020 at 09:31

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aww thanks i hope so!

Nibby > MonkeePuzzle 10/20/2020 at 09:32

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no u

Nibby > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 10/20/2020 at 09:33

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i do volunteer for an online project since april but i guess it’s not the same as volunteering for something in person... also been very careful about going out/who i see during the pandemic. not that it’s an excuse

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 09:42

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Maybe pick up an outdoor volunteer opportunity for the short term? Thinking of helping to maintain hiking trails, maybe help a charity with their landscaping, walk dogs for a animal rescue org, or find a local group that plants trees in public areas.

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 10:08

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Project truck

. https://kalispell.craigslist.org/cto/d/columbia-falls-great-ford-150/7214799766.html

CobraJoe > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 10:08

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Want to be myself again

I’m struggling with this right now too. I’m not sure if it’s the monotony caused by the pandemic, or the slow realization that I don’t care much about my job, or something else... but yeah, I’m feeling lost.

Best of luck to you, and if you find a good method to find yourself again, let me know.  

Nibby > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 10/20/2020 at 10:29

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have a friend that volunteers at an animal shelter, could help out with that!

Nibby > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 10/20/2020 at 10:29

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GIMME PLS

Nibby > CobraJoe 10/20/2020 at 10:42

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thanks man i think i just need to do things i enjoy doing and not worry about bullshit ya k now? one of the things i learned is every adult is kinda faking it too... no one really knows what they’re doing

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 10:43

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Yes, do it! I bet you’ll love it, and meet some like-minded people.

Tripper > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 10:54

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Getting in better shape is a good place to start as it’s a HUGE mental hurdle but conceptually very simple and it comes with a bunch of fringe benefits if you let it.

I picked running because its the easiest thing to just go do for 30+ minutes. I actually still hate it and somedays I just walk my route. But I only hate it all day until I decided I have to do it, then I put some tunes on...by mile 2 most of the ouchies have numbed up and by the time I’m back I’m like YEAHMOTHERFUCKER JUMPKICKYERFUCKINFACEOFF IFIWANNA!!!! WHOOOOOOOOOO! In reality I just go quietly back to my desk, haha.

That “ want to do something that matters” is something that really bothers me too. Then I go down the “what even matters!?!?!?” rabbit hole. My shrink used to tell me “YOU matter”. Yeah whatever lady. My kiddo has slightly shifted this for me. Now it’s “I want to do something I care about” because being a dad has filled the “what matters” hole.

I hope you’re able to check off that list quickly. One meaningful relationship will take down a whole bunch!

Nibby > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 10/20/2020 at 10:55

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Thanks!

Nibby > Tripper 10/20/2020 at 10:57

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thanks for sharing your experiences, it’s helpful
shared this list with a close friend this morning who has been ABSOLUTELY AMAZING the past year and she was able to strongly relate to it as well so we’re working on a lot of those things together!

Pickup_man > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 11:19

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This hits right in the feels, I just went through similar things last night.

Want to get involved in powersports activities (ice racing/hares sc rambles )

Want to be rid of this crippling anxiety about trying new things on my own (see above)

Want to work on my project truck

Want to work on the bikes/3 wheelers

Want to be motivated

Want to go on an adventure

Want to do all of the above while making sure I spend enough time with my son/wife

Want to pay off my truck

Want to buy a new house with bigger garage (in process)

Just want a couple good nights of sleep

There’s more, but those are the ones that have been eating at me lately.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 11:36

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We’ve got your back man...

I know the feeling, I was planning on trying to buy a house this year so I could finally move out on my own (34 and still living at home as I’ve been desperately saving for a house rather than getting an apartment).

I haven’t had a meaningful relationship since university, and that was almost 10 years ago, pretty sad...so I feel you on that one too. Trying to find time for myself longer than an hour here or there is difficult, as I work two jobs teaching and doing computer repair...doesn’t leave me a lot of time for car stuff or trying for relationships, sadly.

I also really need to get in better shape...I sorted out my bike with the intent of riding it all summer once a day for at least a half hour , but I only took it out a few times...de finitely could afford to shed some pounds and go more than 2 ft running without getting winded, lol...

Nibby > Pickup_man 10/20/2020 at 12:06

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prioritize each one and make a plan for them... don’t set any timetables and don’t try to do all at once but it’ll give you more of a sense of purpose/accomplishment

HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles > Nibby 10/20/2020 at 12:12

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I want my garage to be clean, but I don’t want to be the one to clean it 

Nibby > HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles 10/20/2020 at 12:30

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get a roomba

Nibby > RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars 10/20/2020 at 12:30

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hope you can find a new place soon! good luck

you can also get a good workout just by working on cars :P but yeah increase your cardio

E90M3 > Nibby 10/27/2020 at 15:13

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Real reason I wanted it to be Friday was because I was planning on proposing to my GF. 

Bandit > Nibby 11/13/2020 at 10:38

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Yo, if you want a recommendation to any of those GM jobs I posted on the other thread. If so, give me an email address to reach you and I’ll get in touch.

Nibby > Bandit 11/13/2020 at 10:45

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hey yea can you shoot me an email please at nam347@gmail.com

thanks!